How to Have A Successful Marriage

You're getting married and you're all aglow with the romance and excitement of the fairytale wedding you've dreamed of. You're sure you're going to live happily ever after. But after the wedding, after the honeymoon, comes the hard part. Marriage is work and to have a successful marriage, you have to work at it.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Communication
   
   If you learn to communicate, your chances for a successful marriage, or any relationship for that matter, are greatly increased. You have to remember, your spouse isn't psychic. Chances are neither are you. Problems will arise. Things will annoy you. Sometimes you'll get upset or hurt. When these things happen, don't keep them bottled inside. Your spouse will know something is bothering you. If you don't communicate they can drive a wedge between you.

2. Sit Down and Talk But Don't Forget To Listen
   
   Whatever the problems are, don't be afraid to sit down and talk. Together, you can work out whatever is creating the problem, but you have to let your spouse know what it is. Your spouse is your partner, not your boss, not your master. There's no reason to be afraid to speak up. But remember, your spouse will also want to speak. There may be things bothering him/her. Be willing to listen. Communication is a two way street.

3. Don't Argue
   
   The fastest way for communication not to work is to become defensive. If there is a problem you need to talk out, do it with an open mind and an willingness to hear what your spouse has to say on the matter. You can't lay blame on him/her, and visa versa. Work together. Be willing to accept responsibility for your part in the problem, if it lies in your relationship. If the problem is outside the relationship, then listen to your spouse's advice. You don't have to heed it. Learn to listen.

4. Compromise
   
   You're both individuals. You like different things. You like to do different things. Sharing can sometimes be difficult. Learn to compromise. Nothing will ever be 100% your way. You won't be able to change your spouse. Personality is set by the time a person reaches the age of 8. When you marry, you're aware of what your spouse likes and doesn't like, or should be unless that person has been devious. That can happen. But for the most part, you are aware. Instead of trying to change their personality, which is always a disaster, learn to use it to build a stronger relationship. If you like to shop and your spouse doesn't, find a way to make shopping an outing that is fun for both of you. Don't just drag your spouse through your favorite store, but go with them to theirs. Make it an adventure and learn to laugh. The same goes for any interest you or your spouse have that differs. It can be fun if you do it together and combine your interests.

Tips & Warnings

• Remember, marriage is a partnership. There's more to it than physical enjoyment. If you can learn to work together, the physical aspect will be "the frosting on the cake" and last far longer. Give and take, and carry it over to childbearing as well. Your children are individuals, and they belong to both of you, not just one of you. Having children can be a joy if you work together as a family. Communication in all things is the key.

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