Things You'll Need:
- Pen and paper (optional)
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Step 1
Observe their behavior. Do they experience frequent mood swings and outbursts, or do they tend to let most things that bother them slide? Notice how expressive their faces are, and whether they tend to be positive or negative in speech. Once you start to get good at it, try to predict how they will react in certain situations.
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Step 2
Ask them a thousand questions. Seriously. Take out a notebook and make a list of 1,000 crazy questions. Skip all the boring "what's your favorite color?" questions and move on to "Do you believe in ghosts?" and "What person from history inspires you the most?" Because even when people know each other really well, they don't know the answers to those questions.
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Step 3
Learn about their past. Find out how they grew up, how strict their parents were, and how they imagine they will discipline their children (if they plan to have any). Learn about their goals and dreams. Learn their favorite cartoon as a child.
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Step 4
While knowing "everything" about someone is unappealing because there's no mystery left, it's really rewarding to know things about someone that people usually don't tell other people.
Comments
akoehn said
on 4/6/2009 I'm going to go buy a notebook...
ho1969 said
on 3/30/2009 I have been married for 6 years now and my wife and I are still learning about each other. It's fun to learn things about people you love and you have some good ideas here. Thanks and 5*****s
marielc said
on 3/21/2009 Yeah! My friends would play some games that really helped out.
carolina67 said
on 3/21/2009 cool advice! 5* and rec
jfargo said
on 3/19/2009 I like your question list idea, as long as that person knows what you're doing, and why you're asking all these "weird" questions! :)