How to get over childhood hurts and pains and move on

It's a hard thing. We all have these childhood dramas in our lives. Some of us have experience loss of a parent at a young age, or abuse to no end. And we are at a loss about what to do about it. It holds us back. Other people it seems are always getting the better jobs or houses, or scholarships, or maybe we just find ourselves crying alot and for no reason at all. It's time to face facts, the playing field in this thing we call life isn't fair. There will always be somebody out there with the "golden ticket" to willie wonka's chocolate factory, and sometimes it maybe you and sometimes it may be someone else. But there are some tricks that I use that can help. And I hope to get you over that "victim" thinking and move along on.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Honesty with yourself
• Positivity
• Perseverance
• Life plan
• goals
• ambition
• willingness

1. Let go of the past. This is easier said than done. But a very old Nun once told me that "the past is dead, the future is unborn." Another friend said to me that "if you keep one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you are pissing on today." Be willing to move on. Make a mental box in your head and place all those bitter childhood grievances in there.
2. Make a list of what you'd like to get,where you see yourself in five years and then do the homework...go online or to the library and set realistic goals for yourself. Be positive and stay focused. It is very often said that the only way to get ahead and to start living is to "want it bad enough!" You've got to psyche yourself out.
3. This next step is a toughy. Avoid negative people. I know it's hard when they happen to be relatives..but if they are relatives, try to get them on board with your goals. Negativity is a killer for your life plans. In order to stay positive and up beat you need to be moving into a positive light and situations. Avoid those things that bring you down. Surround yourself with sunlight, mentally, physically and spirituatlly.
4. Be prepare to work. And keep moving. If you stop to look back or if you question yourself at every step you will find many reasons for not getting where you want to go. Remember to stop blaming your childhood. Use whatever hurts you had to make you stronger (as Nietzche says, "That which does not kill us makes us strong"). If you had constant quarrels with family, use that to improve your negotiating skills. Just keep moving forward. Join a health club or jog or take up painting or take a course at a school or get yourself a "teach yourself Italian, or French or German" keep moving in that direction and stop stop stop looking back. Looking back is just going to leave you getting nowhere. You need to live the moment and be in the today. Remember, you have everything you need for this journey. Trust in God and move forward. It can be done! And you will be the one to do it!

Tips & Warnings

• I'm so excited when I think about the opportunities we all have. If you stick to try leaving this world a better place than when you found it you will be so incredibly surprized at what you yourself can do.
• Look beyond yourself. Realize how enormous this universe is! It's when we get so petty in our little lives that we lose sight of the forrest and the great good that each of us is capable of. Strive strive strive and you will get there and don't let anybody bring you down.
• Beware of the turkeys who are everywhere telling you that it can't be done.
• Stay away from negative childhood memories and people who bring you there.
• Give yourself a "fail safe" that is, a method for getting out of negative thoughts. When I start to get blue, I hop in my car and drive to the country, and if I can't get to the country I find a park. This gets me out of that "funk." Find something that works for you, be it a place or just a change of energy.
• If you have a bad day, change the energy in your house..move things around, paint a room. Just change something, do something to make things different than they were before.