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Step 1
Know your goal in telling your spouse about your bisexuality. For example, decide if you are seeking to end the marriage, stay in the marriage but open its boundaries to allow each of you to be involved with other partners, or continue the marriage as it is currently structured. This will help you decided how to present your situation to your spouse.
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Step 2
Consider how your spouse is likely to respond. You probably know your partner well, so think about how he or she feels about homosexuality and bisexuality. Ask yourself whether your spouse tends to be jealous, is generally receptive to hearing about your inner life and feelings and whether you feel safe confiding in your him or her.
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Step 3
Choose a suitable time and place for your conversation. If there is a regular time in your routine where you and your spouse have a chance to talk together without interruption and distraction, that might be a good choice. Find a time when both you and your partner are relaxed and comfortable and not burdened by other stressors either within or outside of the marriage.
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Step 4
Plan what you will say. Review in advance what you want to say and how you want to say it before launching into the conversation. This way you will be able to present what you have to say in a way that will be easiest for your spouse to hear, and will help you have your thoughts organized. Decide also if you will talk about this all at once, or if you will lead up to it through a series of conversations.
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Step 5
Decide whether marital counseling might be helpful to you and your partner. Especially if your revelation leads to marital crisis or if the topic proves a difficult one for you and your spouse to work through on your own, a marital therapist can provide a structured forum and helpful facilition to assist you in talking it through.
