How to Tell Parents About Bisexuality

Telling your parents about your bisexuality can be a very difficult and stressful situation. You may be unsure how your parents will react and confused about the best way to tell them. Use the information below to tell your parents about bisexuality.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Practice an opening statement beforehand if it will make you more comfortable when the time comes.

2. Think about other times in your life when you've been in a stressful situation with your parents. This could be a cue to how they'll react when you reveal your bisexuality and may help you prepare.

3. Consider telling only one parent first if you think that will make the process easier. Many people find it easier to talk to one parent. Everyone's family is different; you must approach the situation in a way that works for you and your parents.

4. Be prepared for your parents to ask you certain questions. They may question whether or not you're sure you're bisexual, say they don't believe you, act as though you're just going through a phase or tell you that you'll grow out of it. Some parents may act as though you have a choice in determining your sexuality.

5. Understand that your parents may express feelings of shock, sadness or anger. They may be worried about how to tell relatives, neighbors and friends about your sexuality.

6. Give your parents some time to process the information you've given them. Not only do they have to deal with their own issues, they also must deal with society's stereotypes.

7. Remind your parents that you're the same person you've always been and that you love them.

[arielval]

on 9/18/2009 Actually, if your just coming out with your sexuality. You're not the same person. Even more so if you've been rejecting who you are until now. The people that make fun of you don't know what there talking about because they don't understand bisexuals, gays, lesbians, etc.
The best way to tell your parents is when your ready. When you think they'll be able to handle it. This is something you should give thought to. If your just coming out, tell your best friend first. See how they react. If they take it good, slowly tell other people you trust. Then, when most people around you know of your sexuality, try telling your parents. Start out asking questions, poking around the sisuation.
Because being bisexual, lesbian, or gay is hard to tell the people you love most if they don't agree with something like that.

[JRIngrisano]

on 5/3/2008 I think the key is that 7th point: You're the same person. Also, for parents, do not underestimate the fear factor. Your child is afraid of being sliced and diced, called names and being flat-out rejected. Remember that your child is the same baby you raised. Love him or her unconditionally. John R. Ingrisano