How to Suggest Vaginoplasty to a Wife

If sex with your wife hasn't quite been the same since she gave birth to your children, vaginoplasty, a surgical procedure that tightens a woman's vagina, may be an option you're considering suggesting to her. The following steps will help you to suggest vaginoplasty to your wife in a sensitive manner without being offensive or hurtful.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

1. Set aside a time to talk with your wife when the two of you can be completely alone.
2. Ask her if she's been enjoying sex recently, and insist that she be completely honest with you. She may have also noticed that sex isn't quite as pleasurable since she gave birth, so hopefully you'll find that the two of you are on the same page.
3. Tell her that you just want to make sure that she is enjoying sex the way she used to before she had children and that, while sex with her is and always has been wonderful, you have a suggestion for how to make it even more enjoyable for the both of you.
4. Explain to her that vaginoplasty is a procedure that tightens up the vaginal muscles so that there is more friction and enjoyment for both spouses during sex. Ask her if this is something that she'd ever be interested in doing.
5. Be extremely sensitive when explaining the procedure and suggesting it to her. Make sure to let her know that this is only a thought and a suggestion, and that she is perfectly fine the way she is.

Tips & Warnings

• Remember that this is her body you're talking about, so if she is completely against the procedure, you have to respect her wishes.
• If you don't enjoy sex very much at all anymore, and if your wife isn't open to the suggestion, consider seeing a marriage counselor to explore other options and to keep the dialogue open.
• No matter how kind and sensitive you are when you suggest vaginoplasty to your wife, she may feel inadequate as a result, so remember to assure her that you love her and that this in no way meant to say that you don't enjoy having sex with her.