How to Deal With a Paralyzed Person's Emotions

People who are handicapped and in wheelchairs have sensitivities that the able-bodied often don't even think about. A person who is paralyzed, whether by accident or by birth, looks at the world slightly differently in most cases. When you are in public, you will want to guard against disturbing the emotions of a handicapped person. In private, dealing with a paralyzed person's emotions can be more intimate.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Understand the perspective of the person in the wheelchair. He is grappling with inaccessible physical surroundings as well as possible staring and pointing from passersby.
2. Allow the person who is handicapped to express her emotions if she chooses to do so. You may stand by or walk away, whichever makes you more comfortable.
3. Talk with your friend. Have a conversation in private about how the handicapped person would like you to behave in public and in private. You can't know how to treat someone who is different if you don't ask. Most handicapped adults are aware of their emotions and can articulate to you how they would like you to act when you are with them.
4. Keep your own emotions in check when other people are rude or discriminating toward your friend. People who are paralyzed usually have tough skin and are accustomed to some rude behavior. Let them decide when to express their dissatisfaction with any abuse they feel is being dumped on them.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't tell a paralyzed person that they shouldn't feel a certain way.
• Don't interfere if the person has an emotionally charged situation under control.
• Don't become a rescuer.
• Don't leave the paralyzed person alone with conflicting emotions if they do need your help. Ask if you can help, then do as requested.