How to Talk to a Quiet Guy

Talking to a quiet guy can be a great experience. People who are observers rather than entertainers or big talkers usually are full of great conversation. Getting a quiet guy to talk can be a little difficult sometimes. Here are a few things you can do to put him at ease and get a conversation going.

Instructions

1. Approach a quiet guy in a calm and personal setting like a coffee house or bookstore. Do not misread his lack of conversation as lack of interest. If you really want to talk with a shy guy, a loud party or busy bus stop may not be the best place.

2. Smile and use eye contact. Guys will be more secure if they are sure you want to talk to them. One of the best ways is to smile and use consistent eye contact. This is a clear cut way to show him that you are sincere.

3. Ask personal questions about him. Try to discover what his likes and dislikes are. Find some common ground that he will feel comfortable with talking about in a conversation.

4. Compliment him. Let him know that you think highly of him by saying something nice. The compliment will be more special if you choose something that he was born with, hair, eyes or smile, versus something that he may not have chosen himself, like shirt or shoes.

5. Let silence be acceptable. Being quiet for a few moments and letting him get his thoughts together is important, as he is may be really nervous. Being with him, even in silence, may help loosen him up and feel comforted in the fact that he does not have to entertain you.