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Step 1
Condition your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. If you've ever stopped your urine flow mid-stream, these are the muscles you used to do it. Three to four times a day, tighten your PC muscles 25 times in a row, holding for a second or two on each squeeze.
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Step 2
Learn to relax during sex. If you find yourself getting too tense or excited and you think you might ejaculate too soon, stop what you're doing. Take a few deep, slow breaths and consciously relax your muscles. When you feel your excitement begin to abate, resume your sexual activity.
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Step 3
Use slow, leisurely thrusts. This will help you prolong the first orgasm, thus allowing your sexual energy to flow throughout your body.
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Step 4
Tighten your PC muscles whenever you feel yourself nearing orgasm. This will put a stop to the orgasmic response. When you tighten your PC muscles, also take a moment to breathe deeply and relax your entire body.
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Step 5
Keep up this pattern of prolonging orgasm until you and your partner are both ready for you to have one. When the time comes, wait until you feel yourself at the cusp of the orgasmic response, then tighten your PC muscles. You should experience an orgasm without ejaculating.
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Step 6
Continue having sex, clamping down on the PC muscles every time you want to have an orgasm. With proper practice, you should be able to have orgasms with only a minute or two in between to build up to the next one.








