How to Find a Dominatrix

Being dominated by a whip-wielding woman dressed in black latex is a fantasy many men and women share. Actually going to a professional dominatrix is more than a fantasy to some. Assess your needs and desires to help you find the right professional dominatrix for you.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Decide what you want from a dominatrix. Many clients are successful corporate types who want to give up control for a few hours at a time. Others are interested in exploring BDSM as a lifestyle but haven't found a partner to do it with.
2. Read the adult personal ads for a dominatrix. This is an easy place to find a dominatrix and the ads will also give you a good idea about their personalities and services offered. Often you will be able to live out a deep-seated fantasy when you find the right dominatrix to order you around.
3. Make a list of your fantasies and fetishes. A dominatrix will try to fulfill them, so you must be able to explain them to her. She can then set the stage for your erotic play.
4. Decide if you need to have any special equipment. If your fantasy involves being treated like a dog, all that's required are a dog collar and leash. However, for a more sophisticated medical examination fantasy, your dominatrix might need an examination table and some real-life medical props.
5. Choose how much time and money you want to spend on an appointment. Domination houses are usually less expensive than an independent dominatrix. Also understand your limits and make them clear to any potential dominatrix you correspond with.
6. Get good directions to the dominatrix' dungeon and be on time for your appointment. Most people who are new are nervous the first time they go. Let her know if you are unsure about how she would like you to behave.
7. Assess what you liked and disliked about her after your session, and then decide if you want to go back again. Often it takes a few sessions and a little bit of tweaking until the two of you are communicating to the best of your abilities.

Tips & Warnings

• Interpret the "no sex" rule to mean "no sex of any kind." That means you may not touch, massage or kiss her private parts, and she will not be taking off her clothes. A dominatrix is not a prostitute and could get in serious trouble if she provides sexual services in exchange for money.