How to Introduce a Partner to Spanking

The rush of adrenaline and the thrill of giving or receiving the pain that "hurts good" draw many people into the spanking fetish. Introduce your partner to the art of erotic spanking as you learn what excites him.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Get Closer to Each Other Through Erotic Spanking

1. Discuss your needs and your partner's before you attempt to spank each other. Understand what each of you wants to give and get from the spanking experience. After each spanking, discuss what you liked and didn't like.
2. Start slowly. Just as you must walk before you can run, you should play out one part of a fantasy before you act it all out. Gauge your partner's reaction in the beginning of your spanking relationship and make changes accordingly.
3. Introduce a "safe word" to your partner. The person being spanked must use this word only if he truly wants the spanking to stop, and the spanker must honor it. Say the word if you are pushed past your limits or feel pain beyond what you can handle.
4. Present a spanking video, story or photo to your partner to entice her to play. One that shows the type of spanking you are interested in or the fantasy you would like to play out is best.
5. Use spanking as a jumping-off point to get started in BDSM. BDSM stands for bondage/discipline, domination/submission and sadomasochism. Spanking is a great way to introduce your partner to the world of kinky sex, as you can learn each other's tolerance for pain and other torture play.
6. Make "safe, sane and consensual" your motto. This BDSM slogan means you should always play in a safe environment, with no health risks and when you are both in a sound state of mind. Also, you must both agree on what might happen during the spanking.

Tips & Warnings

• If you plan to be the "top" or the person doing the spanking, agree to receive a spanking the first time. Once it is done to you, you will know what it is like to be in a submissive position and receive pain. This should help you to be more sensitive to your "bottom's" reactions during play.
• Always watch your "bottom's" reaction during spanking play. If you are unsure about proceeding or think you are injuring her emotionally or physically, stop and check in with her.