How to Start a Spanking Relationship

Many couples enjoy erotic spanking on a regular basis. To start a spanking relationship, sexual playmates must be open minded enough to try something new with each other. They must also communicate about their turn-ons and limits, including those related to spanking.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Ask for Spanking

1. Ask whether your partner has any interest in spanking or being spanked. If she has been abused in the past, this could be a touchy subject. An open discussion on spanking in general can ease you into the topic.
2. Ask to be spanked even if this isn't your particular kink. If you want to do the spanking, let your partner give the first spanking. Then, when he sees that it can be fun, he may be willing to let you spank him.
3. Be playful, as sex should be fun for all involved. If you start your spanking session in a lighthearted manner, there is a better chance that both of you will enjoy it.
4. Start with a simple spank on the butt during foreplay or while fooling around. If your partner is receptive to it, take it a little further with a harder slap or smack on his bare bottom during sex.
5. Send your partner an email with a link to a spanking story or photo you like. Ask whether she would like to try it.
6. Say something provocative in the context of sexual spanking and gauge your partner's reaction. Saying something like "I've been naughty and I need a spanking" is a way to introduce spanking into your relationship.
7. Find someone through the various spanking channels if you don't already have a spanking playmate. You may meet someone at your local spanking club. You may also have luck placing a personal ad in an alternative newspaper.

Tips & Warnings

• Provide aftercare for the person being spanked. This can include holding her, cuddling with her after sex or rubbing cooling lotion into her spanked skin. Be sure that both of you are in emotionally safe places before returning to the "real world."
• In some areas, spanking is illegal. Consult a lawyer if you are unsure of your rights as a spanker or spankee.
• Spanking can bring up negative feelings, especially in people who were abused. If your partner has a history of abuse, do not pressure her into a spanking relationship.