How to Get a Spanking

By eHow Health Editor

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Though some people like to give spankings, others want and need to receive erotic punishment. To get a spanking, talk to your sex partner about your desires. He just might be willing to give it a try.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

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Step1

Ask for a spanking early in the sexual relationship. The initial months, while you are getting to know each other's likes and dislikes, are a great time to try spanking because you are already exploring each other.

Step2

Discuss your needs and wants. If you are already in a relationship, it might seem difficult to broach the subject because you already have established patterns and preferences. However, you and your partner might benefit from trying something different, rekindling your feelings for one another.

Step3

Do not expect your partner to share your desires. Just because you would enjoy a spanking relationship doesn't mean your partner would. A good time to start the spanking conversation is after lovemaking, when you are both relaxed, and there is no pressure to perform.

Step4

Avoid starting the spanking discussion during foreplay, especially if you don't know how your partner will react. On one hand, it could enhance the mood. On the other hand, it could put your partner in a foul mood for days.

Step5

Start by playfully teasing each other during the day about the spanking to come that evening. Let your partner decide how and when to remove your clothes.

Step6

Express thanks for the spankings you get. Once your partner has agreed to try spanking you, let him know how much it turns you on and how you would like to do it again. Share the fun with each other, and then plan to act out more fantasies.

Step7

Search for a spanking partner if you don't already have one. Check online in a spanking forum or on a BDSM-dating site. In person, attend meetings of your local spanking club and get involved with the group.

Tips & Warnings

Beware of abusive relationships. While most people involved in the spanking lifestyle are genuine, there are abusers in every crowd. If you don't trust the person, do not let her spank you. You could wind up with more than a few stinging swats on your butt. You could end up with emotional and physical injuries.