How to Behave When Your In Laws Live With You

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Just as there are instances where you need to seek the support of your in laws for housing, there may be times where your in laws will be staying with you. Whether a week or a year, there are some guidelines for behavior, for both the wife and husband.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

patience
restraint
understanding

Step1

Be Consummate Host: Whether for a vacation visit or a more serious turn of events, your job as the husband or the wife of the partner whose parent or parents have come to stay is to be gracious.

Step2

Keep Your Routine: If there ever is an in law or in laws over on an extended stay, that’s great! Unfortunately for most of us, life goes on. So try to make time, when you can. But making the in law feel like an intrusion isn’t generally wise; they have lived a lot longer than you and know that they are a guest.

Step3

Enjoy Your Guest: You will want to make occasion to sit and talk with the in law during their visit. Catch up! Ask questions! Enjoy!

Step4

Assess the Situation: If it is for some domestic reason, you and your partner should both be on the same page so that the parent doesn’t get different stories from the two of you at different times. If yours is an open ended invitation and that’s not a problem, great! If the in law needs special attention or begins grating on the two of you, talking it out and coming up with solutions together is best.

Step5

Let Your Partner Do the Talking: If the stay ever extends itself too long then you should generally not be the one to bring it to the parent or parents attention. Bring it up with your partner; resolution will occur.

Step6

Unless Your Partner Asks You to do the Talking: If your partner can’t say no to her mother or is otherwise intimidated by his father and asks you to then you can find out the whole story.

Step7

Curious Not Furious: If the truth ever does reveal itself about the reason for this extended stay, it’s a good idea to remain objective when finding out what's up.