Step1
Phase 1,
Get to know your children, this will give you highlights of his/her personality, they are individuals of different taste, so respect them in things like, which clothes they want to use, or try to buy clothes of their favorite color, sometimes we have to make that decision, if you can, try to be flexible, they'll feel important.
One of the best ways to reach a goal with discipline is to know which is important in your family to teach your children, which values are a priority for you, is difficult to expect that a 4 or 5 year old will accept a NO! as the only reason to behave, they need to understand why mom is acting like that or saying that, don't touch!, don't say that! or sit well! etc, will maybe confuse your child, a suggestion is: (we are going to visit a friend and mommy brought you some toys for you to play, then we are going to the park, mommy wants you to be a good boy and play with your toys so we can go to the park). Is better to take your children to places were they feel comfortable with, a fancy restaurant is not a place for a kid of that age most of the cases, however a place were is a playground and a restaurant is perfect!, like any burger restaurant, once your children are trained will be easy for them to behave in a classy restaurant,let´s start by phases, ok, so with a creative and positive attitude, here we go!
Step2
The phase 2,
Is to talk to your children, at this age the more power and knowledge you show to them, the more important you make them feel, the best tone of voice you use, then the better results you'll get.
When is time for discipline you'll have to do what you said, if the TV is off at dinner time, then turn off the TV, if they don't behave or do what you have decide, then you will have to make them understand you are the one who has the power to decide what to do at home, they have to obey.
If you are trying to give them vitamin and he/she say no, or is hard for them to swallow, then you can try to say, (wow! what a big girl, you are going to grow so fast, you´ll be bigger than me, open your mouth, ok, you are so great, thank you! mommy is so happy!), so talk to them and make sure they listen, always try the friendly way first, talk short with nice friendly voice, and be precise, turn off tv, radio any distraction when something important like time for homework, or time to eat, sometime we have a bad day, let´s try not to talk much that day, take a bubble bath do something to relax, let´s try to leave the problems at the office.
Other example I use a lot. ...I want you to eat your breakfast because will make you stronger like daddy, also organize an schedule, that will be great for you, also will keep your child in activities, something great is let them help you do the laundry or making cookies, or do an special painting, they love to play with you!, take some time to play with them!, let your inside child come out sometimes, be silly and forget about the office, debts etc, this is like a therapy for you also, if you work the whole day then do something at night, a simple thing like taking a bath together, or take the dog out, will make a difference.
Step3
The phase 3,
Learn to negotiate with them all activities at home, for example is good that children clean and organize their room, so you must organize yourself first with some tasks for them to do at home, and teach them by saying, ok is time to do your room come with mommy, we'll do it together, they will be more than happy to go with you for the first couple of times, after that, they will go alone, say something like.. ok, let´s do your room so we can go to john's birthday, if they see you are giving them something more than just a task ... they will do it, but patience and consistency will be the key to really receive a reward!
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Psalmist4M said
on 7/27/2008 Great advice, and don't forget praying over them. It really helps. 5*s christianwomenconnect
Priszack said
on 5/15/2008 Very good advice Thank You!