How to Discuss VBAC With Your Spouse

VBAC (Vaginal birth after cesarean) is fairly uncommon in today's society. In the USA, nearly 1 in every 3 babies is born via cesarean. This makes repeat c-sections inevitable for many women. However, some mothers simply don't want to settle for a repeat c-section. Instead, they opt for a VBAC. After a woman has made the decision to have a VBAC, she must discuss her decision with her spouse. Here is the best method for discussing VBAC with your partner.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Open mind

1. Ask your partner how he felt when you had your c-section. Was he scared? Was he worried? Did he feel useless?

2. Tell him how your cesarean made you feel. If you were scared, angry, sad or depressed, let him know.

3. Explain to him your various options for the future: repeat c-section, VBAC or no more children. One of the main reasons people choose not to have a VBAC is the lack of knowledge.

4. State simply to him that you would like to have a VBAC for your next child. Explain your reasons for this decision.

5. Listen to his response. If you listen to him, he will be more likely to listen to you and your wants.

Tips & Warnings

• Facts and statistics of success help greatly
• Discuss VBAC as soon as you have made your decision. Don't wait until the last minute
• If possible, let him speak to a successful VBAC couple
• Many people have preconceived notions about VBAC. Be prepared to battle those beliefs