How To Do Just About Everything
By Judy Cutler
Get out your calendar, pencil and resolve
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We have all run into that person who refuses to plan a date in advance to get together. They can be infuriating and demoralizing. They have a million excuses. "I like to wing it" "I never make plans" or the famous "I will let you know". The truth is they can plan their doctor's appointments, trips to the dentist, buy concert tickets for a show they want to see or buy an airline ticket with a date printed on it. They just won't plan a time with you. Here is how to make things go in your favor or drop them forever. Either way you will be happier.
Thinking it over
You invite him or her on a date or to visit you. When they say they cannot make a plan your response is "Okay, let me know when you decide until then I will be going on with my life. Take care. I am someone who makes plans out of consideration for my time and other people's time." Don't not sit on the couch and wait for them. Do something interesting with your time.
They finally call.
When they do call you at the last minute you cannot be available. Nicely with no anger tell them,
You have take the bull by the horns!
Now they know that you will not wait for a civilized answer to an invitation. Now they know they are not the center of the universe. Now they know you will be fine to move on if they are not considerate. They are attracted to your company they will try again. If they are not you haven't lost more than being last on someone's list. Last is not a good feeling.
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