How to Compromise With a Spouse
Compromise involves two parties both giving up something they want. In a marriage, couples often refuse to compromise because they believe their right about a particular issue in the marriage. When couples can no longer compromise with each other divorce may be on the horizon of the relationship. Learn the art of compromise with your spouse.
- Difficulty:
- Moderate
Instructions
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Diagnose the source of conflict. Talk with your spouse to agree on what is the issue that's creating the conflict. Begin a discussion about an agreeable solution to the dilemna.
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Find outside help for objective input. When neither spouse can give in and the issue is too important to be ignored, consider professional help. Marriage counselors can assist you with reaching an agreement.
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Listen to the other partner's point of view. Shouting and ignoring your spouse only makes an argument more intense. Pay attention to what they have to say and keep an open mind.
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Recognize your partner's value. In a marriage neither spouse is more valuable than the other. Let your partner know you respect their feelings on the issue even though you disagree.
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Admit you were wrong and give in graciously. There's no shame in admitting you were wrong about an issue. Consider giving in to your spouse out of love for them. In the next disagreement your spouse can return the favor.
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Agree to disagree. Sometimes a compromise can't be reached. Deal with your own feelings and determine how you can handle the situation.
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Negotiate a compromise. Each side should offer suggestions and brainstorm solutions. The focus should be on coming to a compromise that both parties can accept instead of winning or who's right.
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Tips & Warnings
Reduce the chances of conflicts occurring by discussing issues dealing with religions, how to raise children and other major areas in advance.
Recognize that fights and disagreements are normal in a marriage. Use them as a way of airing out grievances and seeing your spouse's point of view.
Don't allow feelings of anger or resentment to fester; speak about issues as soon as they develop.
Avoid getting defensive when trying to compromise with your spouse.
