How to Refute Alimony

Alimony is money paid to a former spouse where the amount of money and terms of payment are agreed upon between the two former spouses or court ordered. Most states have no strict laws regarding alimony but there are conditions that exist which can limit or cease alimony payments. Learn to refute alimony if an ex-spouse no longer deserves the payment.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

1. Understand that there are three types of alimony payments: permanent alimony payments are regular payments, temporary alimony payments are a set amount of money for a set time frame and lump sum alimony payments where one payment in a large amount of money is paid.
2. Understand the factors your state uses to determine eligibility for alimony and how the payment and duration of payments is calculated. Eligibility for alimony and terms of alimony vary by state.
3. Hire a divorce lawyer who can guide you through the alimony process. Inform him of the reasons for the divorce and some background history of your relationship. Factors like the longevity of the marriage, why the marriage fell apart and your ex-spouse's working background all affect alimony.
4. Know how alimony payments can cease or be lowered. Generally, if an ex-spouse remarries, alimony is terminated. In some states, if an ex-spouse lives with a partner who supports the household in some monetary fashion, alimony can be lowered or stopped.
5. Prove your ex-spouse was the cause for the divorce. You have to be able to prove adultery and abandonment so consider hiring a private investigator who can find the proof you need.
6. Obtain expert witnesses such as doctors or accountants who can attest to the necessity of alimony in cases where the ex-spouse seeks permanent alimony due to disabilities. A doctor can dispute the claim if you know the ex-spouse is committing perjury.