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Step 1
Be honest and aware of your attitude toward sex. If sex was not a priority in your younger years, there is no reason to believe your libido will increase as you age. On the other hand, if you enjoyed an active sex life before menopause, then expect that to remain once you've stopped menstruating.
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Step 2
Talk to your doctor if your body is not cooperating with your desire and your performance. Certain drugs increase problems in the female body, while others help to restore certain female functions.
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Step 3
Maintain a positive body image. Don't get all hung up in the normal changes taking place in your body. Your skin will not be as tight as it once was and you may have a few dark spots. Your partner, if near your own age, also will not be the buff guy he once was.
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Step 4
Get enough sleep. Hot flashes at night may interrupt your required seven or eight hours of rest, so plan to fit naps into your schedule. If you know that your partner will want sex one evening, take a nap that afternoon so you will be fresh and relaxed.
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Step 5
Watch movies or read titillating magazines if your partner is not as exciting as he used to be. Get yourself turned on and you can transfer that into your relationship. You don't have to tell him how you got your libido fired up; and he won't care.








