How to sustain love in the Home

In recent years, the rate of divorce,broken homes and separation has increased astronomically. Thus the need for an article to help couples keep the flame of love burning in the home even many years after wedding.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• A willing heart. Strong desire to play your part.

1. I will be sharing some tips with you on how you can make love grow and blossom in the home even many years after the wedding.
2.  There must be constant and sincere communication between spouses, this prevents rumours and doubts. Always talk it over and be in the picture of what the other spouse is feeling/doing.
3.  Learn to say sorry when you are wrong and accept responsibility for your action (many men find it difficult to do this).
4.  Let your spouse be part of the decision making in the home. Men should learn to seek the opinion of their wives and adopt it if it is reasonable/better.
    The phrase ‘I love you’ should not be said on a monthly basis. Let it be an everyday affair. It keeps the flame of love burning.
    Get interested in what your spouse does ( job, hobby or vocation). It gives your spouse a sense of belonging. Be his/her No 1 motivator.
5.  There should be mutual respect for each other in the home. Men should not lord it over their wives. Wives should be submissive, no matter their position in the society.
    Couples must realize that marriage is all about compromise. Remember you are from different backgrounds. A little football match watched together and sometimes a soap opera watched with your spouse gives him/her a lift. It must not be that one partner should have his/her way all the time.
6.  Correct one another in love. When one is angry, the other must learn to be still. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
    Do not look for the best spouse, be the better partner.
7.  Send love notes, romantic text messages to your spouse periodically. It should not end on the wedding night. Learn to woo your spouse over and over again. It works like MAGIC!
    Send her cards, not only on her birthday but from time to time even if she has grown much bigger than you met her. Let her know you do really and still love her.
    Take time out together – go on strolls, visit cinemas ( if you have one in the neighbourhood), go on vacations/weekends( leave the kids out sometimes). Occasional dinner dates do water the seed of love.
8.  Be creative in the bedroom. Let lovemaking be an experience to always look forward to.
    Discuss what tickles or makes your spouse feel fulfilled (behind closed doors) - it is not for only one party to enjoy. This is very important as this factor has been the remote cause of many broken homes. I want to suggest that couples should read books like- The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly Lahaye.

Tips & Warnings

• If you fail to follow these steps, you might be putting the future of your children and the nation in danger.