Things You'll Need:
- Forgiveness, Humility, Love, Patience and good listening skills
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Step 1
The first thing you have to do is forgive. Forgive your partner for any and everything that was done unintentionally. Now, of course, it will be difficult to forgive the intentional harm you suffered, but even that is not impossible. Forgiveness, allows room for healing.
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Step 2
Don't allow pride to keep you away. Humble yourself. Remember that you aren't perfect either and that we all make mistakes. You should not wait until he or she breaks first. This type of thinking only lengthens the time apart and lessens the chance of reunion.
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Step 3
Remember the love. Talk about the way things were before the trouble, before the disappointments, before the betrayal, before whatever it was that brought you to this point. Then decide if the love you have is worth fighting to keep.
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Step 4
This is a very important step, LISTENING!!! In most cases both people believe that they are right and refuse to listen to the other side of the argument or issue at hand. But if you are going to have any chance at saving your marriage you have to not only listen; but hear. Giving your partner an opportunity to express themselves will allow you time to more carfully consider your position and possibly any mistakes you've made. Now that you listening your partner will see that you are serious about saving the union and in turn will be motivate to do the same.
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Step 5
Ok, you've made some resolutions and have decided to give it a try. The next thing you will need is patience. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither will a strong marriage be. People don't change overnight, so don't expect it. What you can do is frequent discuss the plan for recovery. Remind each other, with patience and love, of both the short and long term goals now established in this redefined union.
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Step 6
DON'T LOOK BACK! Don't allow the problems of the past to hinder the promises of the future.
