How to Write a Letter to a Potential Birth Mother

Giving a child up for adoption is a hard decision, but one that is a little easier when a birth mother gets to read letters written by hopeful adoptive parents. These letters help her choose parents for her child and can ease her mind somewhat. Here's how to write a letter that will persuade her to pick you for her child.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Explain to her why you and your spouse want to adopt a child. You may go into as much detail as you are comfortable with concerning your reproductive past, infertility issues, prior adoptions and your birth children. Some mothers will feel better giving their child to someone who has adopted before and others will feel good knowing that they have given a couple their first shot at becoming parents.

2. Tell her about your financial situation and how you will financially provide for the child. This may include a private education, a college savings account and an overview of your neighborhood, lifestyle and career.

3. Describe the special things that you plan to do with the child. This may include vacations, dance classes or plans for one parent to stay home full-time.

4. Inform her of your morals and values and those that you hope to instill into your child. Let her know what religion you are and how often you attend services. You might include the contact information for your religious leader as a reference.

5. Emphasize what kind of parents you will be. Tell the birth mother how you will love, laugh with and challenge her child. Describe what kind of people you are and reveal what adopting her child would bring to your lives.