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Step 1
Explain to her why you and your spouse want to adopt a child. You may go into as much detail as you are comfortable with concerning your reproductive past, infertility issues, prior adoptions and your birth children. Some mothers will feel better giving their child to someone who has adopted before and others will feel good knowing that they have given a couple their first shot at becoming parents.
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Step 2
Tell her about your financial situation and how you will financially provide for the child. This may include a private education, a college savings account and an overview of your neighborhood, lifestyle and career.
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Step 3
Describe the special things that you plan to do with the child. This may include vacations, dance classes or plans for one parent to stay home full-time.
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Step 4
Inform her of your morals and values and those that you hope to instill into your child. Let her know what religion you are and how often you attend services. You might include the contact information for your religious leader as a reference.
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Step 5
Emphasize what kind of parents you will be. Tell the birth mother how you will love, laugh with and challenge her child. Describe what kind of people you are and reveal what adopting her child would bring to your lives.
Comments
kellyjoy said
on 10/19/2008 Thank you for your site, and if I may make one comment: it is important to recognize that some of us have not yet found (or tragically lost)a spouse to share our lives, but nonetheless, still strongly desire to become a parent. Recognizing this fact is helpful because there are many of us in that boat, and it wold be nice to be included in the discussions.
Thank you kindly, Kelly Joy