Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step1
Talk about it. If you've never given oral sex to a partner, telling you current partner that you're new to this form of sex will make it easier for both of you to explore new territory together. Discuss any uncertainties or reservations that you have, including any negative experiences that you've both had with oral sex in the past.
Step2
Take it slow. Rushing into any new form of sexual contact or level of intimacy is almost a guarantee that one of you will feel intimidated, uncomfortable or embarrassed. Don't feel like you need to rush into oral sex to please your partner. Taking your time will allow both of you to determine what you like or don't like while still being comfortable with the situation and the speed at which things are moving.
Step3
Explore alternatives. If you're anxious about oral sex, begin with some less scary alternatives. There is nothing wrong with easing into a big step like oral sex, so ease into it in small steps if you need to. Try other more subtle techniques that you and your partner can both enjoy so you have something to fall back on if you find that oral sex doesn't work for you or your partner.
Step4
Brush your teeth. Brushing your teeth before sex, be it oral or any other form, gives you the confidence of knowing that your breath is kissably fresh and that you are attractive to your partner. Some sex experts have also said that brushing one's teeth with mint toothpaste before oral sex can give the sensation of receiving oral sex a very pleasant extra tingle.
Step5
Laugh about it together. Being inexperienced with oral sex or even being bad at giving it isn't the end of the world. It also doesn't have to be the end of your relationship. Being able to laugh about an awkward situation will make both of you feel more comfortable and less self-conscious. Remember that you both are human and that things don't always go as planned. Laugh off your mistakes and try it again when you feel more comfortable with it.
