How to Remain Abstinent Until Marriage

In order to remain abstinent until marriage, you will have to make a commitment to yourself and your partner despite all the challenges you will face. Remembering that the ultimate reward of sharing pure intimacy together is worth your patience and will help you reach your goal together.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Find a partner who shares your goal of remaining abstinent until marriage. It's likely to be impossible to date someone who does not believe in abstinence if you want to remain true to your beliefs because the pressure from this person to have sex, whether verbalized or simply implied, will be too much for you to handle. Be sure to fully explain your reasoning for wanting to practice abstinence before pursuing a relationship with someone, especially if you think it could lead to marriage.
2. Avoid situations that promote sexual temptation. Try not to be completely alone together at home, especially at night, and do not sleep in the same bed unless you are confident you can avoid too much bodily contact. Do not allow each other to be undressed around each other or to wear tight or suggestive clothing.
3. Steer clear of sexually suggestive material, such as television shows, movies and music videos. Before you watch any movies or television shows together, always be sure to read reviews in the newspaper or online to find out if they contain any explicit sexual content. This type of content is likely to be arousing and will only further tempt you to participate in sexual activity.
4. Be careful when kissing your partner to keep contact very brief. Long, extended kisses will often lead to touching and more physical activity than may be inappropriate. In the heat of the moment, it is often difficult to discern when you are losing control.
5. Tell your partner if you feel a certain situation is too sexually tempting. You may need to leave the room or choose different seating or sleeping arrangements if you feel that you are having difficulty controlling your sexual desires.
6. Spend time with other people and couples who also plan to remain abstinent until marriage. Being in situations with other people who share the same beliefs and goals will help motivate you and will also allow you to hang out with your partner in situations that are not sexually tempting.

Tips & Warnings

• Be cautious when dating, as some people will tell you they believe in abstinence simply to allow themselves to get to know you better with the hopes of changing your mind at a later time.