How to Talk to Girls on the Street

There's only 2 reasons you might have never thought about meeting an attractive woman in the street. 1) You're lying that you haven't 2) You're in denial. Now, I'm obviously taking a cheap joke at you here, but the truth is that yes... If you're attracted to women, you have seen many attractive ones in everyday situations... And thought about meeting them.

So how do you do this? Here's a short tutorial.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Charisma
• Approaching skills
• Approaching confidence
• A social vibe

1. *Get prepared* One thing you have to realize is that everyday situations are the hardest place to talk to girls period! Its very easy to creep them out if you don't know what you're doing. Unless... you have great charisma and approaching skills.
   
   This is the what will make the difference between a woman bragging to all her friends about this romantic encounter in the supermarket... or... complaining about a creep bothering her at the supermarket.

2. Take a close look at your social and dating skills. I recommend taking an online quiz on assessing your approaching skills. I recommend some quizzes myself. See if you have the basic social skills down pat.

3. So how do you prepare and get these basic approaching, social and charismatic skills? Become a master at approaching and charming women in less-threatening situations. First and foremost go with: social organizations, social circles, clubs, yoga classes, dance clubs, friends of friends, and talk to girls there. Do all of this until you are at the point where you can approach any woman in these situations, and be able to have a charming, effortless conversation with her.

4. Once you're the kind of person who effortlessly communicates with women in all his social circles, its time to hit the streets!
   
   Don't be the creep hitting on random women. First, start talking to *everyone*. That means, I want you to start talking to the old lady waiting in line, the guy who's crossing the pedestrian walk along side you, the cashier checking out your order, the security guard at the entrance, the foreign girls in the tourist agency... You get the point.
   
   What do you talk to them about? Simple, innocuous comments and small-talk about whatever the situation happens to be around you will do just fine. For example: you pass by two women in the fruit aisle, and start asking them if they can recommend how to choose the best apples... or maybe seeing a guy carrying your favorite sport team's dress and chatting him up about it by throwing some comment at him that only "fans" can know.

5. Once you are a "natural" at being the cool guy who always seems to *naturally* find himself in charming conversations with the strangers throughout his life... you are ready to move on to the next step. Time to learn how to talk to the girls in these situations.
   
   Start out by doing the same as you did in step 2, only start doing it with women that usually intimidate you. Continue doing this until you find yourself being able to see any woman in any everyday situation, and purposefully go up to her and have a "chit-chat"... No matter how much she gives you "the butterflies"! Do this on purpose, until you no longer feel intimidated by any women, anywhere.
   
   I want you to purposefully find all situation that make you feel uneasy, and approach in these situations on purpose, until you're comfortable with any situation. Expand all your comfort zones.

6. Once you have expanded your comfort zones... STOP DOING IT! Yes, that's right, stop looking at women, running up to them and chatting with them. (no matter how charismatic it turns out). This was just to bust through your comfort zone.
   
   By the time you've consciously and progressively removed all your fears, you should find yourself "naturally" doing this. Most of your days (simply by virtue of the lifestyle you've built), you will end up talking to girls through out the natural course of the day. You'll do this without having to specifically go up and talk to them at parties and clubs. You'll just find yourself cracking a joke to the person standing next to you in line, or befriending the cashiers at the store. This is how it should be.

Tips & Warnings

• Remember, this guide presumes you're already talking to people on a regular basis through clubs, bars and parties and that you have a pretty decent love(sex)-life, you can take the quiz to find out
• Many men have been burned by trying to skip steps. The steps presented are there for a reason. A lot of men have become creeps by trying to skip over to hitting on random women on the streets without the basics. You need to learn how to have basic and advanced social and approaching know-how first!
• The streets are "expert" territory and this article is rated advanced. Unless you have basic charisma and charm under your belt, the odds are that if you go to approaching random women directly, you will simply creep out a ton of women, not get to talk to them... so don't do it... it's not respectful... It will waste you a lot of time going the wrong route.

Resources

• The Approaching Quiz, Find out how you stack up compared to other guys
• Basics of approaching girls
• How to Talk to Girls

[blowdata4u]

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[mechelepellebon]

on 9/13/2009 Great dating and pick-up tips for men and women. Who knew dating was so complicated...

[doitrightnow]

on 8/29/2009 Load a rot, I say. Girls can smell a fakie ten miles away. Once you're in the relationship with her, she will know pretty quickly that your conversational skills were a put on. Don't risk it!

[proseduction]

on 7/27/2009 wow this is some good advice given here. it's great. but if u want to take things to the next level, you have to include something called Kino. The word comes from Kinasthetic which meants touch or study of the body. Apply this with any girl, and you're guaranteed to get lucky. To learn more you should visit
Pro Seduction Training. Great site

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[machak]

on 5/3/2009 Yes, its definetely not an easy area to get good at. I do think its well worth the effort though. I'm not there yet myself, but I have definetely seen benefits to having a greater choice of places and ways to meet people