How to Use Email for Virtual Sex

With the advent of the Internet and the incredible ease with which people can now communicate with each other, it was only a matter of time before "sex conversation" became widespread through chats and email. If you are away from your lover for any length of time, virtual sex through email can be a way to stay emotionally close while gaining greater insight into what turns each of you on.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Be sure that the person you are writing to wants to receive such an email. You should plan on writing depictions of graphic and sensual sexual activity, so you need to be clear with each other that nothing you write will be seen as offensive or humiliating or in any way unwanted.
2. Have pictures of your lover handy, so as to help you visualize whatever scene you want to set up in words. Prepare yourself to be free with your imagination. It can help to pretend that you're actually getting ready to make love to your lover in the flesh: bathe or shower, put on sexy or revealing pajamas. Such an approach may "set the mood" and get your mind working along the necessary channels.
3. Write with feeling. This is much like what writers of fiction have to do in order to create wonderful novels. Think of each detail of the scene, including the teasing prior to foreplay and all the light touching and tickling you might do to your lover. Describe each movement in words and you will have your reader feeling every such movement.
4. Include references to the five senses. Think about the particular smells and tastes that will be involved in each action. Describe the varying pressure of your touch on your lover's skin; add detail to the way you see her body in all its sensual beauty and have her feel all the sexual tension through all the attention you give her.
5. Plan a time when you can email together. It's a bit slower than chatting or using instant messenger services, but you can interchange emails by having each of you describe a part of the experience, alternating. This will give each of you the chance to see how the other thinks and such an uncovering of your intimate selves will add depth, trust and substance to all aspects of your relationship.

Tips & Warnings

• This is an area where you will have to be strong at self-governance. If the email sex you engage in is with a person other than your partner or spouse, you will need to monitor your behavior and responses; it's very possible that such a relationship will eat away at your sexual desire toward your legitimate partner and that, if found out, your email relationship will be seen as adultery by your partner.
• Certain studies have indicated the possibility that virtual sex may have the effect of eroding--or at least modifying--one's desire for bodily sexual involvement. Again, monitor your physiological responses while engaged in this pursuit; if other aspects of your sexuality suffer, you may not want to continue "having" virtual sex.
• Be VERY sure that you know who the email is going to. Make sure that the email address is correct, and that you haven't hit any buttons or tabs that will send your email to everyone on your address list. At best, you could be very embarrassed; at worst, you could be brought up on legal charges for obscenity, depending on your location and the disposition of those who receive the email.