How to Write Marriage Vows for Gays

For gay couples who are planning a commitment ceremony, finding the right words to express devotion to one another can be daunting. Though some individuals like to follow traditional guidelines in writing marriage vows, there are a range of creative options as well.

Instructions

1. Write down your favorite poetic passages, scriptures or songs and use these as a starting point. Both of you should take the time to select meaningful words from favorite poems or songs to inject into your vows. Then, work together to blend them effectively.

2. Use the traditional wedding vows as a kind of outline for your own vows. The traditional vows go thus: "In the name of God, I, _______ take you, ___________to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow." You can choose to arrange or rearrange these in any way you choose.

3. Describe the moment when you knew you were in love with your partner. This can add an incredibly romantic dimension to your wedding vows. Each of you can just take a moment to express how you felt when you "knew" they were the one for you forever.

4. Express what your marriage means to you. This could range from "a lifetime of devotion and love" to "a union of hearts and souls forever." You should make it as romantic and personal as you can. Make these words last forever.

5. Incorporate words of gratitude into your marriage vows. Let your partner know how much you value and appreciate them and that your life would not be the same without them. Show them thanksgiving in your vows.