How to Receive a Handshake

In American culture, a handshake is a greeting between two people. It's a mutual sign of acknowledgement, and an unspoken agreement that two parties will conduct themselves in a reasonable fashion. We teach people how to give a good handshake. It is equally important to receive one well. Read on to find out how.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. Accept the handshake. In the U.S., etiquette dictates you must accept an offered handshake. If you do not, you become rude, if not openly hostile. Unless you're filthy, contagious, or holding up the heavy end of an entertainment center, return the handshake. (If you are filthy, contagious or nice enough to help your buddy move, explain with a smile and an apology why you're unable to shake hands).

2. Keep your right hand dry and warm. When someone offers you a handshake, don't return it with a cold, clammy hand. If you're carrying a cold drink, keep it in your left hand. If you have sweaty palms, discretely wipe your hand before returning a handshake.

3. Stand when someone offers you a handshake. Only those in wheelchairs or hospital beds should return a handshake from a seated position. However, if the person offering the handshake is seated and does not attempt to rise, you can choose to remain seated. Standing in this circumstance suggests correction of the other person's poor manners.

4. Observe body language. As the person extends his hand to you, take note if he is friend or foe. If he turns his wrist so his hand faces palm down, it is usually a sign of dominance. If he's your superior, such as your boss, you can let it slide. If not, smile and firmly turn your wrist so both your hand and his are upright, palms facing to the side. This tells him that you won't be intimidated easily.

5. Let the other person know you have self-confidence by returning the handshake with a firm, not heavy, grip. A limp handshake sends the message that you're spineless, while a bone-crushing hold can convey arrogance or nervous bravado. A firm, middle-of-the-road grip exudes self-assurance.

6. Beware of the two-fisted handshake. Occasionally this is a sign of affection from someone you know well, but coming from a colleague or stranger it can signal an aggressive statement. Look the person in the eye and smile with an "I know what you're up to" grin, but don't use two hands yourself. Respond to an aggressive handshake with class, and you'll still come out on top.