How to Get Your Sexual Partner to 69

The simultaneous oral pleasure that two people can give and receive with one another in the 69 position can be a wonderful erotic experience if both partners are comfortable. However, that state of readiness may not be an automatic occurrence even when two people are in love and otherwise intimate sexually. Sharing the 69 position is a great deal more intimate than using two straws at the malt shoppe.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Build Sexual Trust With Your Partner

1. Respond to your partner's sexual needs and interests proactively and enthusiastically and treat them as equal in importance to your own.
2. Treasure every moment of sexual pleasure that you share spontaneously with your partner rather than always focusing on what's next.
3. Maintain excellent sexual hygiene at all times and let your sexual partner know that you are comfortable with his sexual hygiene.

Listen to Your Sexual Partner About 69

4. Communicate with your sexual partner about both of your sexual interests not just your own.
5. Ask your sexual partner to share fantasies and interests with you and see whether she brings up a desire to try the 69 position.
6. Draw out your partner's reluctance, if any, to try 69 and discuss any reasons he may have for avoiding the position.
7. Avoid insisting on having things your way or bullying your partner into doing something she does not want to do.

Get Your Sexual Partner To 69

8. Express your desire to share the 69 experience with your sexual partner in the context of your love, devotion and desire to be totally intimate with your partner.
9. Introduce 69 as a pleasurable experience that the two of you might share for a few moments rather than a daunting evening-long commitment.
10. Build upon the experiences that you are already sharing with your partner. If you already enjoy oral sex with one another, 69 may just be a matter of joining two pleasurable experiences together.

Tips & Warnings

• Your partner's possible reluctance to try the 69 position is not necessarily a matter of prudishness or squeamishness. Some people feel that the effort to share such intense pleasure simultaneously is distracting. They prefer to give while they are giving, and to receive while they are receiving.
• One benefit of the 69 position that may recommend it to sexual partners who are trying to avoid intercourse or pregnancy is that nobody can get pregnant while locked in the 69 position.
• Never try to get your sexual partner to try 69 or anything else by drawing on comparisons to your previous sexual partners or your friends' sexual partners, unless you want to be sent back to them.