How to Move Back In With Your Parents

OK, it’s time to face the music: You are a 20-something (or 30-something) moving back in with mom and dad. Despite the comforts of home-cooked meals, sleeping in your old room and saving beaucoup bucks, you’re an adult and should be treated like one! Remember that the same rules you had when you were younger don’t necessarily apply now; that said, you are living in someone else’s home and must respect the rules – but it doesn’t mean you can’t negotiate! So, whether you’re moving back because you are in between jobs, saving money or you just ended a relationship, here are a few things to discuss with your parents so you can live under their roof and still live by your rules.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Have a conversation with your parents before you move in to hammer out the new rules. As in any roommate situation, consider creating a contract that states all of the rules and responsibilities you and your family agree upon.
2. Will you pay rent? Money is one of the things that can create bad blood between family members, so make sure you discuss finances. If they insist that you live rent-free, offer to help pay the household bills.
3. Are overnight guests allowed? Hey, we’re all adults here, and it’s an important question if you want to avoid a very awkward scene in the morning.
4. What chores should you do? Volunteer to take out the trash, vacuum once a week or wash dishes. At the very least, insist on doing your laundry and cleaning your room.
5. What are their rules? Can they enter your room? Offer your friends a snack when they come over? Like children, parents need boundaries too.
6. Do you have a curfew? Do you have to let them know where you are going? No matter what age you are, your parents worry about you and you don’t really want mom calling at 2 a.m. to discover your whereabouts.
7. How long can you stay? It might be beneficial to both you and your parents if you set a timeline. Knowing you have to be out by a certain date (however far off) might motivate you to save money and succeed. It might also ease their worries that you’re going to live at home forever, never get married or give them grandchildren.