How to Overcome Rejection

By eHow Relationships & Family Editor

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You experience rejection every time you go into a situation that doesn't go as you expected. Rejection leads you to believe that you are unwanted, unworthy or not valuable. If you've been rejected, your self-esteem may be in jeopardy as well as your mental health. Luckily there are ways to overcome rejection.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Step1

Realize that rejection is a person's opinion. Whether it's the person who interviewed you for a job you didn't get or a partner who has decided to end your relationship, rejection stems from that person. You must be able to accept that person's opinion as opinion and not fact.

Step2

Value your good qualities and focus on your strengths as an individual to overcome rejection. Make a list of things that you like about you and review it daily. You need to look at areas where you have even more potential and strive to achieve it. Doing something nice for someone, like volunteering for the elderly or disabled, can help you cultivate your positive qualities.

Step3

Make a choice to overcome rejection. Everyone is bound to feel hurt or disappointed at some point in time. You have the choice to look at rejection as an opportunity to grow and better yourself or allow it to consume you. You need to accept that you are capable of change when change is needed. However, you must also realize that sometimes rejection is the result of the other person's inability to change and is a flaw within them, not you.

Step4

Believe in something larger than you, whether it's a higher power defined by an organized religion or something more personal. Having belief in something larger than you can allow you to gain perspective on rejection.

Step5

Get counseling. The degree of pain caused by rejection directly correlates to how intimate you were with the person who rejected you. You may need to get professional help to overcome rejection from a parent, a spouse or a partner. Group therapy or a support group offers you the environment to share your feelings and meet others overcoming rejection. You may need one-on-one therapy before you're ready to try group therapy.