How to Resolve Marital Issues

Divorce ranks high as a destructive force to the family unit. Building on mutual respect, openness to communicate and love never fails. Dealing with marital issues and working together to resolve them produces a long and healthy relationship.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Let your spouse know when an issue arises and set a time to discuss and resolve the matter. Keeping silent causes the problem to grow and adds negative feelings like resentment and hostility.

2. Sit close to each other during the talk, maintaining openness and a willingness to work on marital issues to keep the marriage healthy and happy.

3. Watch out for argumentative words that blame, embarrass or demean your spouse. Frame the conversation around a caring attitude with the goal of resolution.

4. Listen and allow each other to express feelings and thoughts without interruption.

5. Keep the conversation to the issue at hand.

6. Find a solution and agreement to overcome the marital issue. Change in behavior, attitudes and compromise go far in correcting marital problems.

7. Follow up with a kiss, hug and I love you.

Tips & Warnings

• Meeting each other's needs during the marriage protects the bond.
• Allow time for healing. Marital problems typically revolve around money matters, family conflicts with children, lack of attention and unfaithfulness.
• Seek counseling at your place of worship or from a marriage counselor when issues reach an impasse.
• Never discuss a marital problem when arguing. Leave it for another time without making the matter worse.
• Avoid bringing up past mistakes, especially those already dealt with.
• Don't give up when looking for a solution for the person you love and married.