How to Choose a Mate
Many people try out matchmaking websites or rely on their friends to find a suitable partner. Instead of going by their gut instincts, many daters opt for taking relationship advice from others. While friends and family generally have the best intentions, a lifelong partner can be discovered with a little preparation. Choose a mate by following these key steps and enjoy the rewards of a great relationship.
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Instructions
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Make a list. Write down all of the positive qualities you seek in a mate and the negative ones you'd rather not see. If a person has too many in the negative category, it's time to move on.
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Be a social butterfly. Embrace life and meet new people every day. Keep in mind that friends can often turn into lovers.
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Set a 3-date limit. After 3 dates you can generally learn enough about a person and tell if there is a romantic spark. No spark equals no more dates.
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Ignore stereotypes. Sometimes a first impression may not be correct. Always give a potential partner a second chance, but never a third one.
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Trust your gut. If it feels wrong, it is. Introduce your potential mate to friends and even family members for a second opinion.
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Move slowly. Take time to really get to know a person and decide if commitment is possible before becoming exclusive. Broken hearts can be prevented if both people are honest with each other and themselves.
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Put sexual attraction in check. Romantic chemistry is definitely a must but a healthy, long-term relationship requires more than just lust.
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Hold realistic expectations. Finding someone who is "perfect" is not as important as finding someone who makes you happy. Keep in mind that everyone has faults (including you).
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Take risks. Go out on a limb and ask a stranger out if it feels right. Remember the perfect mate could be standing behind you at the grocery store.
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Tips & Warnings
Embrace the dating life. Choosing someone to share your heart with isn't always cut and dry. Dating a lot of people helps you narrow down what you'd like to see in a lifelong mate.
Don't waste time trying to change someone. A person with a drinking problem needs to help his or her self before starting a relationship.
Be cautious when dating strangers. Always meet in a public place and don't share your address until you feel more comfortable.
