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Step 1
Find the right woman to join you and your partner to fulfill your fantasy. Socialize at hip clubs that attract a sexy clientèle, or place or answer ads in the "alternative lifestyles" section of your local weekly newspaper like the Village Voice.
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Step 2
Ease into it. If you find another woman through an ad or at a club, get to know her a bit before having sex. This could mean having a cocktail with her before hitting the bedroom, or it could mean hanging out for a day. You want to feel comfortable with the woman who completes your threesome, and weed out gossips and psychos.
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Step 3
Approach the interlude so that all three of you have an equal say in the action. That is, unless you and the other woman want to be dominated by the man. Discuss what you want beforehand. Buy sex toys or lingerie together. This will build anticipation, arousal and trust.
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Step 4
Choose a private, appealing place to have sex, preferably with a king-size bed. Make sure there won't be any interruptions.
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Step 5
Be spontaneous. Some threesomes have a romantic tinge, others are rough and wild. Let your desires and fetishes run free, but like in BDSM play, stop if one person becomes uncomfortable with the scenario. Surprise your man by acting out some of his fantasies without letting him know ahead of time.
