How to keep a relationship strong

Having so many responsibilities: work, school, children, etc... Many of us (often unwittingly), put our relationships on hold. Just like a plant needs water to grow, finding time for each other, keeping an open mind, as well as staying involved in each other's lives, should prove to be just what the doctor ordered when it comes to maintaining a strong relationship.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• A small amount of time, an open mind, and a big heart!

1. If you have ever uttered the phrase: "there is not enough time in the day", then chances are you have experienced some sort of challenge keeping your relationship strong. These days especially, time seems to be the one thing we could all use more of. With only 24 hours in a day, one third of which is suppose to be dedicated to sleep, there really isn't enough time in a day to fulfill all of our obligations without some sacrifice. And if you work 8 hours plus go to school for just 2, you are left with 6. Six hours to cook 3 meals, eat 3 meals, perform hygiene, shop, clean, etc... It's a miracle only two thirds of marriages end in divorce. However, despite our crazy schedules, we must make time for our loved ones. Even if it's only 5 minutes, a little can go a long way. Your spouse is more than likely , at least somewhat aware of all the demands you must meet. And what little time you have to meet them. With that said, it's probably not too much to ask that you take 5 minutes to acknowledge someones importance in your life. There is no way to sugar coat it - you must make time for the ones you love. Don't wait for the wheel to squeek before you grease it. Almost anything you do is going to remind your loved ones that regardless of how busy you are, you will always find time for them.
2. Perhaps as important as finding time for each other, is what to do with it. Although we all could use some recreation, maybe you could cut down on the time you spend online. Shaving off a minute here and there could give you enough time to try something new. Having been in a relationship for 14 years (and counting), I discovered that keeping an open mind can be a priceless tool. Take what little time you can find and try to create new ways to say I love you. Maybe write a foot rub coupon on a sticky note and leave it on the computer desk before you go to work. Or a homemade card left in the mailbox can be a welcome surprise. Been there done that, try a game of strip hide and seek. Okay, maybe not. Nevertheless, try not to be afraid of new ways of thinking. "Variety is the spice of life".
3. Last but not least, a lot can happen in one week. So if you are really busy you might have missed out on something that was significant to your loved one. This can be avoided by simply asking questions. Never underestimate the power of the obvious ones - how was your day, or what's new at work, school, etc... Staying involved says - I care about you and what's going on in your life. Remember, you get back what you put in. If you make time for them, you should get it back. And after all, a 5 minute backrub might not only help you forget a hectic day but can also prepare you to do it all over again tomorrow!