How to Get Your Children to Listen to You

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Children are a challenge, but they learn much of their attitudes about listening from us.

Things You'll Need

• Patience
• Supplies for activities you plan with children

Instructions

1. 

   Listening communication

   Do you ever wonder why your children don't listen to you? Or what children will listen to? Does your house turn chaotic at 4 pm every afternoon? When you are dealing with four children under five it can really be crazy, like my household. You need lots of communication ideas to deal with these active kids.

   Whether we realize it or not our children are getting mixed messages from us. As much as we love them they can drive us nuts.

   Children feel your interaction them then apply their language skills. Good communication between children and parents is not always easy. Encourage conversations with them even if just asking how their day went. Creating a place for them to confide tells them you're interested in them and their feelings.

2. 

   Anger stress management

   • Words that hurt - Let them know you disapprove of their disruptive behavior, not them. Speak without cursing at them.
   • Calm down, take ten and breathe or take a walk.
   • Resolve the problem - decide how to handle the problem effectively.
   • Correct your child with love, without hurting them or you.
   • Don't lash out at them when you're angry. Deal with these situations with the right attitude.

   In today's world our day is so busy, sometimes our communication with children is limited to telling them what to do, and not to do that or go to bed. We need to create moments to talk to children when were not distracted by work or problems. Letting them know you care.

3. 

   Communicate with Feelings

   Send out real feelings to your child, words that match your feelings. Children will feel the situation and act in reason through them. Be a good role model.

   - If you don't tell the truth about something they feel it.
   - They know if you are smoothing over the real facts.
   - If you speak in an unusually quiet tone, they think something is wrong.
   - If they here gossip, they think there is something to hide.
   - If your words don't match your facial expression they'll know it.

4. 

   Three Steps for Hearing Your Message

   1. Speak clearly - let them hear your caring voice which tells them you are honest and understanding.
   2. Listen actively - they copy what they hear, be an active listener.
   3. Effective communication - Your ability to communicate is dependent on messages from your childhood you're sending to your child.

   Even if not married divorce child should be able to talk to both parents about their problems. When parenting time is over for the day find a quiet place to write or think or just be alone when you're frustrated and stressed, with the things your children are doing. Parents also need time to be together too, without the kids it is essential to their marriage.

5. 

   Children's activities

   • Children walking
   • Plant a garden
   • Hopscotch
   • Water activities
   • Horseshoes
   • Bubbles
   • Kick Ball
   • Penny pitching
   • Softball
   In conclusion, enjoy your kids while you can they grow up so fast.

Tips & Warnings

• Find activities for their age level

• Doing things together will take the stress off you.

• Listen to their needs, they may be little but they have feelings

• Don't get so stressed out that your life becomes chaotic.

• Give your self a timeout - you need your me time.

Resources

• http://www.ehow.com/members/pepper0617.html?view=3rd
• http://www.parenting-journals.com/95/get-your-child-to-listen-the-first-time/