How to Create Intimacy in an Open Relationship

Intimacy is a problem in an open relationship if you or your partner can't get past the idea that you share sexual moments with others. By definition, an open relationship means you have sex with others but stay emotionally committed to your partner. You need to constantly nurture that sexual relationship. Follow these steps to maintain intimacy.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Explore whether you and your partner are really committed to an open relationship. Both of you have to agree wholeheartedly to prevent it from ruining your intimacy. Create a nonthreatening environment where each one of you can express your true opinion about the situation.
2. Reassure your partner that sex with others in no way replaces the sex you have together. Your intimate moments are special in a way no one else can replicate. Give specific details about how your partner makes intimacy special in a way no one else can.
3. Ask your partner if she's bored with your sexual activities. A positive answer will sting for a while but after you've had some distance from the situation it can help open you up to new experiences.
4. Get romantic. Sexual intimacy precedes emotional closeness. Tap into the connection that brought you together in the first place. Recall special moments you had together that stimulated your sexual activity.
5. Show appreciation for all your partner gives you that no one else does. Write a romantic letter or poem that expresses this from your heart.
6. Book a vacation to a romantic place like Hawaii or Paris. Create an exciting atmosphere with new experiences and candid talk. Let him know exactly what's on your mind.
7. Try something new with your partner. Take care not to introduce things you've experienced with others in your open relationship. You create intimacy by making rituals that no one else shares.

Tips & Warnings

• Take the time to enjoy intimacy with your partner on a regular basis as often as you can.