How to Stay Calm During a Child's Tantrum

Nothing can cause a parent to lose her patience faster than having to deal with child in the middle of a temper tantrum. However, by learning how to remain calm yourself and by setting a positive example, you will ultimately demonstrate to your child the necessary tools with which to handle his own emotions.

Instructions

1. Remain calm. Before reacting to your child's tantrum, take several deep breaths and count to 10. This will allow you a few moments to gather your composure instead of lashing out in anger.

2. Walk away. Sometimes it is best to leave a child to work through a tantrum by removing yourself from the situation. Some moms and dads refer to this as a "parent time-out" and walking away gives you the opportunity to calm down.

3. Stand firm and gain control of the situation. A child will throw a tantrum for many reasons one of them being to get what she wants whether it is a new toy, a piece of candy or a later bedtime. Instead of being argumentative or yelling, clarify your expectations in a calm voice.

4. Call for backup. If possible, enlist the help of someone else during a child's tantrum, whether it is a spouse, a family member or friend. Remaining calm is easier when another adult is around to help you with a difficult situation.

5. Find a distraction. Listen to music or find something else to keep you occupied while you wait for your child's tantrum to stop.

Tips & Warnings

• Remember to ensure that your child is in a safe environment and not able to hurt himself if you choose to walk away from his tantrum.