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Step 1
Talk with her about it. Find out why she's making this New Year's Resolution and how committed she is to keeping it. If it's a momentary whim, she won't keep the resolution. If she's thought about it and planned for it, she's more likely to keep it. In addition, make sure her goal is actually obtainable. If it's not, help her rephrase it so it is.
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Step 2
Find out if she has a plan. If she wants to lose weight, get a new job or go back to school, find out how she's going to do it. Build a step-by-step plan with concrete goals. She's more likely to succeed with a plan in place.
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Step 3
Make her write down (or at least discuss) her goals. Find out what exactly she wants to get out of this New Year's resolution and how her life (and yours) will change from it.
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Step 4
Try not to nag her. Nagging will not help, and may make her not keep her resolution.
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Step 5
Be supportive if keeping her new resolutions means time away from you or costs money.
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Step 6
Listen to her complain about any hiccups or problems she has in keeping her resolutions. All she may need to keep her resolution is someone to vent to about problems and difficulties. Continue to encourage her if she reverts, slips up or stops keeping her resolution for a day or two.
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Step 7
Reward her. If her New Year's Resolution is complex and requires many steps to have accomplish it, reward her with small gifts or treats each time a step is accomplished.
