How to Discipline a Child

Many people confuse the word discipline with punishment. These two words are not interchangeable in definition, though. Discipline is a form of teaching. It focuses on teaching a child right from wrong, and how to make good decisions, while providing security and a stable environment where the child feels loved.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Remain calm. The child learns from the parent's behavior. By seeing their parent lose their temper, the child assumes this behavior is acceptable. Yelling and screaming at the child will ensure that the behavior will be reciprocated at some point.

2. Emphasize that the behavior is unacceptable, and that the child is loved. Explain why the behavior is not allowed.

3. Avoid spanking. Physical punishment has been proven to make children more aggressive. Studies have also shown that it is in no way more effective than any other form of punishment for any child. It also leads to the child harboring anger and resentment, which leads to other misbehaviors, especially as the child gets older.

4. Use positive reinforcement. Be sure to praise the child when she does something good. Be sincere in the praise. Be careful not to overpraise, since it won't be as effective. Also, offer rewards for good behavior.

5. Be a positive role model for the child. Remember that a little pair of eyes is constantly watching, learning from every action.

6. Limit use of negativity. A good rule of thumb is two positive reinforcements for every criticism. If the child never hears anything good, his self esteem will suffer.