How to Deal with Gossip

Most of us have been the subject of gossip at some point in our lives, and we've all felt the sting of humiliation that goes along with it. On the other hand, we've all done some gossiping of our own, and we may have hurt someone else's feelings as a result.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Be direct with people who are gossiping about you or others. Tell them that what they're doing is hurtful and that you refuse to participate in such discussions.

2. Change the subject. If your boss, a coworker or a close friend is gossiping and you feel uncomfortable asking them to stop, change the subject so that you don't have to participate in gossip that may end up hurting someone else's feelings.

3. Prevent gossip by paying attention to what you do and say around others, especially around those who tend to gossip. While it may not be fun to censor yourself, at least you won't be providing any new material for people to spread rumors about.

4. Tell your secrets only to trusted friends to be sure that no one is spreading your business around town.

5. Let it go. If you've already asked the gossipers to stop blabbing about you or others and they're still at it, move on and let it go. The gossipers will eventually get bored and move on, and you'll be happy that you didn't spend any more of your time worrying about what they had to say.

Tips & Warnings

• If someone is gossiping about you at work, handle the situation yourself before reporting that person to your boss. Ask the gossiper to stop talking about you behind your back. If your coworker continues to blab after you've asked her to stop, then talk with your supervisor to remedy the situation.
• Don't spread gossip about others. You don't want people spreading gossip about you, so don't gossip about others. Participating in gossip, however fun it may seem in the moment, will only hurt someone's feelings in the end.

[dzm1982]

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[blogblahblah]

on 2/25/2009 ok...so really...I am not a certified guidance counselor but I am a bit of a rebel! STOP GOSSIP IN THE WORK PLACE!!!! S.G.I.T.W.P,!!!

[blogblahblah]

on 2/25/2009 A sure fire way to stop gossip--As the gossipee enters the room, quickly and abruptly asked the gossiper "is that the person you were talkin' about????" laugh and walk away!