How to Get Sex

Most men today are wondering "how to get sex", all the while convinced that every one except them is having it. In reality, aside from a few players and womanizers, most of today's men do not have nearly as much sex as much as they wish they did.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Persistence
• The Proper Information
• Time
• Patience

1. The very first step is assessing your personal strengths. Check out the quiz on the bottom (in resources) to see how you stack up in terms of your skills.

2. The next step preparing your mindset for the challenge.
   
   So what the heck does "having a proper mindset" got to do with getting sex?
   
   It has to do with realizing that you can *not* "make" a woman want to have sex with you. Never could, never will.

3. The Casanovas and Don Juans of the world get plenty of sex, but they never truly change the woman's mind. They don't actually go out and "get" a women to have sex with them. They get sex by the magic formula which is:
   
   a) Be as attractive as possible (have women find you as sexy as possible), that is become the man she wants to have sex with
   
   b) Master social finesse, i.e. learn how to create the practical conditions for the situation to take place, and remove any uncomfortable situations. You do this by:
   
   - knowing when to make the move, and how to make the move,
   - when to be direct,
   - when to let her make a move,
   - when to be indirect and discrete,
   - when to be direct and blunt...
   
   The first step is simply becoming aware of how women are the ones who choose, and then looking into what are all the elements of proper logistics.

4. Get information on becoming sexually attractive and learn about the attributes of being a sexually attractive man. These include:
   
   - social skills (can you walk into a room and then approach and charm everyone there?)
   - confidence (do you feel like you can achieve anything you want and do you believe you have many successes in life)
   - charisma (do people light up and start smiling when they see you)
   - looks (this is the genetic part)
   - emotional expressiveness (how animated and interesting you are)
   - positivity (do people perceive you as a joy to be around or are you cynical and pessimistic?)
   - lifestyle (how interesting is your lifestyle, do you have a bunch of interesting and exciting hobbies, or do you spend most of your time online)
   - Image (this is how you make use of your looks, i.e. the non-genetical part)
   
   Aside from looks (which only factor in at about 5-10% even if you are the ugliest person on earth), every one of those attributes is a separate skill that can be learned in pretty much the same way you would learn to play a guitar.
   
   The higher your skill in each of these attributes, the more attractive you are seen to be. One way to look at is as an RPG game, where each skill point on the separate skills increases your overall "sexual attractiveness" attribute. The higher this attribute, the higher the percentage of women who want to have sex with you.
   
   You can find courses and books about each one of these skills separately. Books can be found on amazon, and with a little bit of googling you can find a course on just about any skill imaginable.
   
   Therefore, this step means that you go and find the information on mastering these attributes, and then apply them.

5. Get information on mastering social finesse:
   
   - Knowing what to say to a girl when you approach her
   - Knowing what to say to create the opportunity for sex
   - Knowing what to do when there are practical issues and barriers to having sex
   - Knowing what to do when she gives you her number
   - Knowing what to do when she doesn't give you her number
   - etc... etc...
   
   The best information about "social finesse" can be found with dating authors for men. Do an online search for their forums and ask for advice, or look into the resources at the bottom.

6. Go into a social situation such as party or a night club, talk to everyone there... male, female, young and old. Be charming, charismatic and positive... and befriend and charm everyone there with cool conversation.
   
   Soon enough many of the women will see you as the attractive guy. Pick the one you want from all the women now vying for your attention, and use your new-found logistics skills to take her home.

Tips & Warnings

• Do not go looking for a quick-fix. You might have discovered this article looking for a quick-fix, but it's not going to happen. The only way to get sex quickly is to go pay for it (not recommended)
• Alternatively, developing each of these attributes is fulfilling in and of itself, and when you do invest time developing them, you will end up getting sex quickly and easily, by just simply "being yourself"
• Do not fall into the trap that becoming a more (sexually) attractive man involves being genetically handsome. How attractive a man is to women sexually is almost entirely based on character traits that can be cultivated, looks only figure in at about 5-10% (now scientifically proven)

Resources

• How To Get Sex (some more information on logistics)
• Quiz on How Well You Stack Up Compared To Other Guys

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on 10/18/2007 - Knowing what to do when she gives you her number
Take her number and talk more. Don't be like "I got her number, I win", you should only take her number if you can't get logistics (take her somewhere else, bar or coffee).

-Be prepared to mess up

Girls like guys who won't take you too seriously. Girls know better we are human and make a lot errors.

- Knowing what to do when she doesn't give you her number
Dismiss it. Continue talking. Also don't come asking her number out of the blue. Try it to be smooth like it's just a minor detail to both get together.
- etc...

[Redux]

on 10/18/2007 - Knowing what to say to a girl when you approach her

It's important to expand this. Don't get canned, don't pre-plan "word-by-word" or you will not be fully "present".

Get a list of things you would like to talk about.

Good topics: Travelling, family and art.
Bad topics: Politics, Ethnicy and Religion.
These topics can get you easily in a negation/defensive state, which leads to you arguing, and finally to nowhere with women, actually don't argue with anyone (make that a rule).

- Knowing [...] opportunity for sex
- Knowing [...] practical issues and barriers to having sex
This should be only thing to pre-plan.
Place A (where you meet women), Place B (the place you take them after), to Place C (Home). Place A (where you meet women), Place B (the place you take them after), to Place C (Home). Make a consistent plan that works for you.