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Step 1
Start with "thank you." When you receive a verbal invitation, there's an impulse to respond immediately. Use that impulse to thank the other person for the invitation. Focus the conversation on the fact that you're receiving an invitation and how thoughtful it was of the other person to include you.
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Step 2
Stall for time. You don't want to accept an invitation on impulse and then have to go back and rescind your acceptance. Even if you think you're free that day and want to attend the event, don't give a definitive answer on the spot. Ask the person inviting you if you can call him later. If need be, make an excuse, such as you have to check with your spouse. A great excuse for not accepting immediately is to say you have something else that day but will see if you can get out of it.
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Step 3
Clarify logistics. Get all of the particulars about the event to which you're being invited. Ask when and where it will take place, what the occasion is and who will be included. You can't accept an invitation if you don't know exactly what you're getting in to.
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Step 4
Offer to bring something. When you do accept a verbal invitation, there's sometimes an awkward silence. Fill it by asking what you can bring. Often a verbal invitation is extended because the event is informal, just an off-the-cuff get together. In this case, the host may be counting on everyone pitching in.
