How to Deal With a Violent Person

Some people may get violent during stressful situations, while others are violent for unknown reasons. Some people deal with violence and violent people on a daily basis. Learn how to deal with a violent person and know the steps it takes to avoid the situation and get help both of you.

Instructions

1. Turn the other cheek and back away. The best way to deal with a violent person is to get out of the situation as fast as possible without causing a big scene. Some people get violent when things aren't going the way they had planned. Say as little as possible to avoid making the person angrier.

2. Learn patience and think clearly when you are dealing with a violent person. Many times a violent person is immature and impatient. Being patient gives an upper hand and control of at least your emotions.

3. Get professional help. Counseling could be for you or the violent person. Many violent people might refuse professional help at first. Continue to try getting them help. Many underlying issues can cause these outbursts of violence, and they can be both psychological and physiological.

4. Avoid the situation if possible. Try to avoid this person if at all possible until he or she gets help or learns to control this anger.

5. Stand up for yourself. Many violent people thrive on control, anger and violence. If the person sees a weakness he or she may see this as a means to continue the violence unless a stand is made. Violent people are similar to bullies in nature. People who bully often back down once someone stands up to them. Stand up and make sure this person knows that you will not tolerate the violence anymore.

Tips & Warnings

• Even if the violent person refuses counseling, you should get professional help to learn techniques for diffusing their anger.

• Have a plan of where to go if you feel threatened.

• Call the police or other authority if the violence escalates beyond means that you are comfortable.

• Avoid the temptation to insult even if the person says insults too.

Resources

• This is the official website of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a hotline dedicated to helping those dealing with domestic violence.