How to conduct yourself at an iftar

If you've been invited to an iftar, or meal where Muslims will break their fast, you may wonder about what to do when, where and how. Don't fret- you've most likely been invited as an honored guest, and any faux pas will not have any grave consequences. Still, it's always good to know what to expect.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Iftar invite info (date, location, etc.)
• Modest clothing

1. The iftar may be held at a mosque, but modest clothing is always best at an iftar. Long sleeves, skirts or pants are usually sufficient- but if you are female, and the iftar is at a mosque, you should inquire about head-covering requirements- they vary from mosque to mosque.
2. The iftar will be carefully timed to twilight, so punctuality is key. The call to prayer will sound at the time of fast breaking, and any time the call to prayer is sounded is a time for quiet. Dates and water or milk will then be passed around for those breaking their fast at the appropriate moment- it's generally better to pass on these if you haven't been fasting. After a few minutes, people will gather for congregational prayer. If you're not Muslim, you are not obligated to join in, but please keep any conversation down.
3. After prayer, the dinner proper is served. Men and women may be seated separately, there may be a section for families to sit together, or seating may not be sectioned at all, except for speakers. Feel free to converse with members of the same sex- and questions about Islam are fair game- just keep the questions fair. That said, it's a dinner party- enjoy yourself!

Tips & Warnings

• Like any dinner party, if you have any food allergies, it's best to discreetly inquire before you start eating.
• If you'd like to BE invited to an iftar, call a local mosque- they often welcome visitors during Ramadan.
• Like any dinner party, politics can be a minefield- try to avoid debates.