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Step 1
Discuss oral sex outside the bedroom. Communication is a key ingredient in a sexual relationship, so talking about your attitudes toward oral sex away from the action can help you gauge exactly how to request it.
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Step 2
Build up trust with your partner. Both men and women often need to feel comfortable in a relationship before performing oral sex, especially if a person isn't totally comfortable with the act in general. Only request oral sex once you feel completely at ease with your partner.
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Step 3
Set a mood. Strive for a moment in which both of you are feeling relaxed, in the mood and open to experimentation. Light some candles and engage in some romance before you request oral sex.
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Step 4
Make your partner feel wanted and respected. Many women, especially, see oral sex as demeaning and somewhat scary. A man should treat a woman to foreplay in a comfortable, unintimidating environment in hopes that she will reciprocate.
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Step 5
Be responsive to your partner's actions. If you want oral sex, you can blatantly ask for it or suggest it with the way you move and react to your partner. By all means, be respectful of your partner (no pushing his head downward), but give hints if you choose not to ask outright.
