How to Drop out of a Fraternity

If you find that the fraternity you have joined isn't a good fit, you don't have to stay. You can "depledge," although it may cost you some money. Here are the steps.

Instructions

1. Visit the Greek affairs office of your college or university and find out the process for official depledging. Speak with an advisor about the subject so you have all the information.

2. Learn the protocol to drop out before you mention your decision with anyone in your organization. Speak with your parents, guardians or mentors on your decision and ask for their support.

3. Speak with the President or Vice President of your fraternity about your decision. Obtain the contact information for the national office so you can also inform them personally of your decision.

4. Inform your fraternity, Greek affairs offices and your national chapter office of the official date that you intend to leave your fraternity. Be prepared for some hard feelings and possible fees for depledging.

5. Obtain legal council if necessary should the depledging process become arduous or you are harassed by fraternity members. This treatment is rare but can happen. Turn in your pin and any other viable information, documents or property of the fraternity.

Tips & Warnings

• Think about your decision before telling anyone you want to drop out. Many people change their minds, only to be dismissed from the organization by by members who were angered over their disloyalty.

• Keep information regarding your stay in the organization discreet, and respect their traditions even though you are no longer a frat member.

• Most fraternities require that you must be depledged for a certain period and remain in good standing at a university before you can consider previous pledges from other fraternities.

• Don't divulge any secrets or traditions about your fraternity to other organizations. You will be the prime suspect if word leaks about rituals or practices.

• Report any hazing or harassment to proper officials immediately and file a formal complaint for threats or violence.

Resources

• Visit the North American Interfraternity Council website.
• This website provides links to Greek organizations.