How to Stop a School Bully
One of a parent's worst fears is that her child will become the victim of a school bully. Once bullied, a child often suffers from lowered self-esteem and may even fight against depression and anxiety. Here are a few ideas on how to stop a school bully.
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Take action. Parents who suspect that their child suffers from a school bully simply can't wait for their child to broach the topic. In most cases, children won't confide in an adult, as fear and embarrassment prevent them from doing so. Your child can't handle bullying alone and requires your help, as well as the school's, to stop a school bully proactively.
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Teach your child self-confidence. Children who have strong social skills are less likely to become victims of bullying. Enroll him in activities that boost his self-esteem and where children with similar interests surround him.
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Explain to your child that reacting and fighting back will only cause the school bully to become more aggressive. Give him alternatives to fighting. Help him to role-play how he might talk to a school bully.
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Find out who your child's friends are. A school bully is more likely to target children who are loners. Make sure that your child has friends with whom he can sit at lunch and play with on the playground.
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Inform teachers, counselors, and the principal of the school bully. Keeping children safe while at school is a cumulative effort of all responsible adults.
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Tips & Warnings
Do not handle a school bully yourself, and never approach the bully's parents. Always contact a school official if you suspect your child is being bullied.
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well I feel my daughter is getting bully but the school don't think so I been everyday picking up my daughter from school 20 min early so nothing happen and the one day I did not pick her up the girl went up to her and said she want to fight her and my daughter said she don't want to fight she don't have a reason to but the girl said if my daughter does not fight her she was still going to hit her my daughter said I am not scared of u but I don't have a reason to fight her so my daughter did not have a choice but to fight her that when everything got worst because he said she said is still happening and now I hear that the girl said that just because she not in school for a week does not mean nothing going to happen I feel like I am all alone because I took this to the school and they said everything is ok but my daughter still had to fight her because other kids r saying that my daughter is saying something about her. well what I don't understand is that I am all for the bullying law and if my daughter bully somebody I will want them to take action on her because I don't believe in bullying someone.my daughter was in the bathroom when to girls was fighting and she took her cell phone and record it and post it up on face book and they gave her 30 day but this girl that went up to her and I been in the school for almost two week letting them know what being said and what they going to do she only got 5 day out of school so do anybody understand where I am coming from y I am upset.
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alpha99
Dec 25, 2010
I totally agree with Crystal above. I was bullied for most of my high school years. The only way it stopped was when I FOUGHT BACK. This one guy who tormented me for years, I just cussed him out and shoved him hard in the face. He never bothered me again. I'm 26 now, and I see a lot of advice on the Internet saying that you shouldn't react or fight back, and that you should try to talk things. That is total crap. You just need to stand up for yourself and show you're not afraid of them. You have a better chance of the bullies leaving you alone. -
Crystal Rzepecki
Oct 31, 2010
WHAT NOT TO DO! Explain to your child that reacting and fighting back will only cause the school bully to become more aggressive. Give him alternatives to fighting. Help him to role-play how he might talk to a school bully-has this person ever met a bully? ---if you do this i promise the abuse will never end! I know from personal experience that you CAN STOP IT by fighting back. they don't get more aggressive! they look for someone else who will not fight back! why does no one get this obvious answer? if it's between detention and a lifetime of misery are you really gonna just let yourself get picked on?
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Crystal Rzepecki
Oct 31, 2010
This is CRAP. Bullies do not care of your nice. They want a target, someone who will do exactly this: take it. The second you fight back you are no longer a viable target. Bullies need to look good in front of their friends, not risk looking stupid. you want to stop a bully? EASY. Verbally fight back and if it gets physical then do the same. When a girl tried to push me i pushed back. it was done. i was not gonna take it so she was FORCED to move onto someone else.
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mrspeed
Dec 19, 2007
These so called solutions seem to be very simplistic. Unfortunately the problem of "bullies" is not. I have to tell my son that because of the law he must attend school (and because I want him to have a proper education). But the thugs and wanna-be gang bangers are constrained be the same laws, so now days the school-yard is much more like a prison-yard. this is a scary place to be if you are just a kid who wants to learn.
