How to End a Dating Dry Spell

A light heart and dating success go hand in hand.

The bad news is, when you are in a dating dry spell it feels like eternity. The good news is, when you vow to make a change, you can be booked with dates in no time.

Things You'll Need

• A desire for romance
• Willingness to make a change
• Determination to stick with it

Instructions

End a Dating Dry Spell

1. Commit to take action. The sky does not rain men. Super models do not magically appear to deliver beer to men who play fantasy baseball in front of their computers all day. If you are unhappy about the state of your romantic life, you've got to do something to make the miracles happen.

2. Venture very far out of your comfort zone. Do things that scare you. Dance. Climb mountains. Paint pictures. Respond to a personal ad. Talk to strangers. Continually pushing yourself to develop new skills helps you become an open, vibrant and interesting person. Your enthusiasm for life will shine and others will naturally be drawn to you.

3. Become a regular. While it's important to mix it up, developing a routine will help you meet others with similar interests. I visit my favorite Farmer's Market every Sunday morning. My friend goes salsa dancing every Thursday night. We both have made friends and gotten dates from our beloved weekly routines. Whether it's attending church or volunteering at an animal shelter or simply spending time at a local coffee house, find a social activity you enjoy and commit to doing it at least once every two weeks.

4. Get zapped into action. If you feel a spark of electricity between you and the hottie across the room, chances are he or she feels it to. Attraction does not exist in a vacuum; it takes two to tango. When you feel that chemistry brewing, don't ignore it. This is the perfect time to make your move.

5. Be bold. Exclaim, "Damn you're hot!" Write your email address on a napkin and hand it over to him. Look straight into her eyes and grin. Let your gaze linger. Do things that only movie characters seem to have the guts to do.

6. Take pride in your appearance. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that a woman doesn't want to date a man with wrinkled clothes, and a man doesn't want to date a woman whose feet look like that of a swamp creature. Remember what your grandma told you: Don't slouch, floss, wash behind your ears and put on clean underwear.

7. Smile. Dating is fun. You aren't on a job interview. You aren't testifying in court. So grin. And laugh. And don't take the whole thing so damn seriously.

8. Remember, it isn't where you go that matters, it's how you go that matters. You can go to the busiest bar in town on a Saturday night and not meet a soul if you are uptight and closed. On the same token, you can go to the grocery store on a Tuesday afternoon and get a dozen phone numbers if you are friendly and flirtatious.

9. Embrace rejection. If you aren't being rejected, you aren't putting yourself out there enough. Rejection is a part of dating. Instead of taking it as a sign that you are a failure, take it as a sign that you are brave. Most importantly: Don't be hard on yourself. People will reject you for a myriad of reasons, most of which have nothing to do with you.

10. Keep it in perspective. The vast majority of dates don't lead to marriage and many don't even lead to a second date. Don't fret. If one date fails to bring the outcome you wanted, it doesn't mean they all will.

Resources

• Kiss Me, I'm Single
• How to Live an Extraordinary Life